Happy Thursday fellow readers! So I have seen a lot of talk in the last few weeks about individuals saying your are doing great, but I can’t do that. I am hearing an abundance of can’t instead of yes. I use to be in that same group, but not anymore so I wanted a chance to talk to you about changing your outlook on things.
First, how do you know you can’t? Do you really have a legitimate reason to say you can’t or are you saying that because someone else put that in your head. Very few people actually have a legitimate reason to utter the word I can’t. The real and honest truth is your being reserved and you won’t. Something or someone is holding you back and it saddens me to think you are living that way. You need to take control of your life and instead of saying can’t how about saying I will try, and then progress even further and say I WILL DO IT!
Believe me when I tell you I was a leader of the I can’t club at one point in my life. I felt that everything I enjoyed I couldn’t do because I didn’t know how to do it or I didn’t know how to fit it into my life. I can’t sell a painting because who would buy it? I can’t write a blog who would read it? I can’t write a book! I can’t inspire others! All of these went in circles in my head constantly. All of these things are things that I believe in and things I have a passion for, but I was letting my worry of others opinions get in way of my happiness. I was letting people that I don’t even know weigh me down and keep me from my creativity and my passions.
So what changed? I woke up one day and realized I had so much negativity in my life that there was no way I could live my own life and ever be happy. So a day at a time I started looking for positivity and over the past few years of my life I have found some great people that inspire me to be me and chase after what I want. I now have the blog I have always wanted. I have put my paintings out there for the world to see and purchase. I have started a book. I have started taking steps to do what I love and teach what I believe in to inspire others. Am I making millions and rich from all of this, to be honest I haven’t made a dime, but I am so happy with what I am doing! I love sharing me with anyone and everyone. I enjoy being a positive step in the right direction for myself. I enjoy the simple things in life all thanks to the smallest changes. I’m thankful to be alive and be happy.
To tell yourself you can’t is plain and simple bullshit! I’m sorry for my language but that it how I feel about it. I will never tell myself that I can’t again. I may try and fail, and I may discover thing that are not for me but I will never not try! I can do what I want because I believe in me and who I am and what I want. If someone else doesn’t believe in me then I won’t let them be a part of my life. I refuse to allow negativity in, and when it tries to creep in anyway I take time to refocus and restart, because I don’t want to carry that with me.
Start small if you have to, but promise yourself your start trying and saying I will and eliminate the I can’t from your life. A great rule of thumb is eliminate the word from your vocabulary completely. If you really have to say no to something don’t say I can’t do that, instead try saying not today but how about next week. Then you didn’t say you couldn’t you just made it clear it didn’t work in your life at the moment but you also committed to doing it in the near future. That doesn’t mean keep putting it off either, remember we are never promised a tomorrow!
I can, YOU CAN, we all can! Remember that and remind yourself that every single day, and until next time…..Keep Ketoing On!
All too often we start something and then we let “life” derail us. I know I’m guilty of this on several things. I’ve lost count of how many blankets I started to crochet but have now been tossed to the back of my closet. More so than that the numerous diets and weight loss trends I tried before Keto came into my life. I always found an excuse to stop or convinced myself the struggle wasn’t worth the reward, but for some reason it was not like that with Keto, at least not entirely.
I would be giving you very false information if I said I jumped on the Keto wagon and ta da it was magic and smooth sailing. If it were not for my husband supporting me from day one I would have caved the very first week and dove head first into a carton of ice cream. Even once I got past the awful first week of sugar withdrawals, my journey was far from flawless. Between daily stresses, having kids, social outings, and somedays just being down and depressed “dirty” keto became my friend at times. I would allow myself to drift into items I knew were not good for me based on their ingredients, but they fit my way of counting “net” carbs so it was all good. It was good for the first few months until I found a good support system and individuals with information that made more sense.
After four months of “dirty” keto I started to realize while I was dropping weight I was also not feeling as others doing keto. So I chose to not give up but dig in deeper and what I learned was that all those things I was making fit into my macros were actually defeating the purpose of what I was aiming for. Not only did I want to lose weight I wanted to be healthier and happier, I wanted to enjoy my life and not spend it in my bedroom staring at a wall all the time. I wanted to be able to go out and not get depressed because I thought another women looked better than me. I wanted to really re-discover who I was and quit hiding behind the excuse of I don’t feel well.
So here I was four months in and re-addressing everything and tweaking what I was doing and researching more. I could have easily thrown in the towel at that point and picked up a donut and been happy, because the cravings to me at that point were still very much real. I didn’t though something told me don’t give up just do better. So I went on and guess what after another couple months things were a little better, but I still had a ways to go. So I kept researching and growing my support circle and started asking more and more questions. I would have never asked questions before but I still ask so many questions! I want to know answers and opinions and what worked for others, because I want to find what combination of all of that works the best for me!
Almost 9 months into this journey with 65 pounds lost and 98 3/4″ lost off of my body I still have days I have to dig deep to keep myself going. I’m seeing amazing results and I still struggle!! Yes, my cravings have stopped and I have no desire for sugary things anymore, but I still have body complex issues and miles to go to get to where I want to be. The difference is I have this energy and amazing group of people that push me, and now I am making a difference in others lives and pushing them. It doesn’t matter what way of eating you prefer or what health things you believe in. What matters is that you believe in the whole heartedly and you push yourself to be different and not give up. You may have a bad day but don’t throw in he towel just get back at it tomorrow! We are human and we will make errors, don’t be so critical of those errors! You got this, you can do, find your inner strength and Keep On Keeping On!
I am beyond proud of myself for the determination that I have had to change my way of eating and that it has led me fortunately to weight loss that I without a doubt needed. I feel better now than I have for years, and the great part is I’m not even quite half way through my weight loss journey. There is so much more to health though than just the weight loss. Each and everyday I have to try and focus on the other things and figure out how to motivate myself towards the success that I so desire.
Struggle number one for me now is getting into a rhythm with working out and getting into better physical shape. Now, I have no desire to ever become some superstar athlete that runs in triathlons, or a super body builder. All I desire is to keep my muscles in working order and improve my physical well being. I know that I can more than likely achieve this by simply walking thirty minutes a day 3 or 4 times a week, but I somehow always manage to derail myself.
I get focused, I get amped up, I do great for a couple weeks, and then I let life take control and I miss my goal and targets for a couple weeks. It is like ebb and flow of the tides of the ocean. So I constantly search for a way to inspire myself and reach a point of not fighting my goals but wanting to reach them and exceed them. I know eventually I will find something that inspires me and I want turn back once I find it, but until then I know my journey is far from over. My journey is one of weight loss, fitness and spiritual discovery and I have only began to discover the genesis of the true me!
Thanks for joining me come on in and let’s talk! There is no topic I’m afraid to tackle and share my opinion with you. My door is always open and my mind is a maze of wonder. Join me also as I share with you the journey I have been on over the last few years and how it has changed my life. I hope that from hearing of my journey you may find inspiration in your own life.
A wise man confesses his wrong, a fool defends it. – Dr. Doug Weiss