Taking a little time off to work on me. So I won’t be as active on my social media outlets, or posting my daily blogs. If you have questions or need support please send me a dm and I will get back to you as soon as I can. I’ll be back in a flash!
Happy Thursday fellow readers! So I have seen a lot of talk in the last few weeks about individuals saying your are doing great, but I can’t do that. I am hearing an abundance of can’t instead of yes. I use to be in that same group, but not anymore so I wanted a chance to talk to you about changing your outlook on things.
First, how do you know you can’t? Do you really have a legitimate reason to say you can’t or are you saying that because someone else put that in your head. Very few people actually have a legitimate reason to utter the word I can’t. The real and honest truth is your being reserved and you won’t. Something or someone is holding you back and it saddens me to think you are living that way. You need to take control of your life and instead of saying can’t how about saying I will try, and then progress even further and say I WILL DO IT!
Believe me when I tell you I was a leader of the I can’t club at one point in my life. I felt that everything I enjoyed I couldn’t do because I didn’t know how to do it or I didn’t know how to fit it into my life. I can’t sell a painting because who would buy it? I can’t write a blog who would read it? I can’t write a book! I can’t inspire others! All of these went in circles in my head constantly. All of these things are things that I believe in and things I have a passion for, but I was letting my worry of others opinions get in way of my happiness. I was letting people that I don’t even know weigh me down and keep me from my creativity and my passions.
So what changed? I woke up one day and realized I had so much negativity in my life that there was no way I could live my own life and ever be happy. So a day at a time I started looking for positivity and over the past few years of my life I have found some great people that inspire me to be me and chase after what I want. I now have the blog I have always wanted. I have put my paintings out there for the world to see and purchase. I have started a book. I have started taking steps to do what I love and teach what I believe in to inspire others. Am I making millions and rich from all of this, to be honest I haven’t made a dime, but I am so happy with what I am doing! I love sharing me with anyone and everyone. I enjoy being a positive step in the right direction for myself. I enjoy the simple things in life all thanks to the smallest changes. I’m thankful to be alive and be happy.
To tell yourself you can’t is plain and simple bullshit! I’m sorry for my language but that it how I feel about it. I will never tell myself that I can’t again. I may try and fail, and I may discover thing that are not for me but I will never not try! I can do what I want because I believe in me and who I am and what I want. If someone else doesn’t believe in me then I won’t let them be a part of my life. I refuse to allow negativity in, and when it tries to creep in anyway I take time to refocus and restart, because I don’t want to carry that with me.
Start small if you have to, but promise yourself your start trying and saying I will and eliminate the I can’t from your life. A great rule of thumb is eliminate the word from your vocabulary completely. If you really have to say no to something don’t say I can’t do that, instead try saying not today but how about next week. Then you didn’t say you couldn’t you just made it clear it didn’t work in your life at the moment but you also committed to doing it in the near future. That doesn’t mean keep putting it off either, remember we are never promised a tomorrow!
I can, YOU CAN, we all can! Remember that and remind yourself that every single day, and until next time…..Keep Ketoing On!
Happy, happy, happy FRIDAY!!! I hope all of my fellow readers have had an amazing day. It has been a super long week and I can talk more about that on Monday in the next publication of Monday Madness. Today I wanted to take a break from all the teaching and preaching and send everyone a positive message for the weekend.
Rather you are working this weekend, off this weekend, spending time with family, or having a huge Easter celebration I want to wish you positive vibes and happy moments! Take time this weekend and remind yourself that you are loved and you are alive! Don’t let anyone take that away from you and if they try tell the to %i#s OFF! Until next week…..Keep Ketoing On!
Happy Hump Day! I hope all my fellow readers are having an amazing Wednesday. I’ve been busy as a little bee in a new flower field, but I wanted to take a few minutes and share this with you today. This is something that I personally struggle with all the time, but I am getting better at it. Today I want to talk about how important it is no matter what you are doing in your life to LOVE YOURSELF. You can in no way, shape or form help others or be there for others if you don’t love yourself.
A little history lesson for you. Many of you reading are probably asking well how do you not love yourself? It’s simple really do you do things for yourself and appreciate who you are to the fullest? Well I never did until recently. I went through twelve years of pure hell, in a very highly abusive relationship. A relationship that took a very bright and adventurous young lady and transformed her into a very weak and controlled nobody that was just glad to be alive the next day. I was told for years I was fat, ugly, useless, a bad mom, a bad wife, and so on. After years of hearing those things you begin to believe them, and that is one of the hardest things to ever recover from. The bruises will heal the mental anguish and pain not so much.
While I still have days that I struggle with the demons still left behind from those years of my life, I no longer let them control me. I removed the negativity from my life and replaced it with positivity, strength and desire. A little over five years ago I met my now current husband Tanner. Both of us were on bad paths at the time, but when we collided something amazing happened. Never in my life have I had someone look at me the way he looks at me, or tell me how beautiful I was, or how proud he was of me. He was positive encouragement to me from day one! He turned my life perspective around and made me realize if I dug deep enough I could find that ambitious person down inside that was silenced long ago.
So that is what I did. With his support and my constant work I started to find me again. The me I always wanted to be and the me I loved being at one point. So here I am today loving myself and loving my life and the direction that I am going. So now I am choosing to share that positivity with everyone and anyone that wants to soak it in and show you that you too are worth something and beautiful in your own way. Never again in my life will I allow another person to define who I am and who I will be.
Okay, now that I am down off my soap box let’s talk about what you can do to make sure you are loving yourself and taking care of yourself outside of just diet and exercise. I could probably spend hours listing things for you all but I want to hit a few that work for me. Some of these you may think well I can’t afford that so put those on a list and make those for special occasions. It does not take money to give yourself love and care. It also does not matter if you are a man or a women we all need this in our lives, so I will also list some things that men may like that my husband enjoys as well.
One of the most common items people turn toward for this type of gratification is beauty or spa type items. Both men and women can benefit from massage, sauna, acupuncture, pedicures, manicure, and even getting a hair cut. These are all things that are beneficial to your health and boost your mood because you feel better. Most of these can be costly though so you may want to use them for that special occasion I mentioned above. If you are married you and your spouse/partner could also give each other massages, an added benefit here is not only are you caring for yourself your also boosting your relationship.
So what if all that beauty stuff isn’t in your wheelhouse? Find something else! Self care and love doesn’t have to come from some service you are receiving it can be just a gratifying to complete something. On of my favorite things to do for myself is throw on some music, grab a canvas, and just paint. I let my emotions just run wild and in the end I get a great painting to sell or admire. Art for me is the way I choose to love myself. By getting out all those emotions I feel better, its almost like active meditating for me. For my husband it is building something. He does a lot of small building projects at home and when he is done he feels better because he had the opportunity to clear his mind while he worked on something. We both enjoy fishing and use this as well. Nothing like a day at the lake enjoying nature, a burger on the grill, and maybe a fish or two. As you can see there are many ways to love yourself.
I also recommend you start removing negativity from your life in anyway you can. Look up daily positive affirmations and read those. If someone is weighing you down cut them out of your life. Remind yourself every morning that you are amazing, you are great, you are loved, and you are worth it. Just saying those kind of positive things over and over can make such a big difference. I have actually even deleted people from my social media accounts because everything that posted was of hate or negativity and I just don’t accept that in my life anymore. I am choosing to be positive and choosing to be happy. I choose to love myself above all else!
If you have to start small. Look at yourself in the mirror and find one thing that you truly love about yourself. For example my eyes are dark brown and I love them they look soulful. So if you really like your eyes make that your daily praise and say I have beautiful eyes. Once you do that for a little while add in something else, then something else, and then before you know it you will be saying I love all of me. I may not be perfect but I love the me I am right now. This also doesn’t mean you can’t continue to work on you. I still need to lose around 60 pounds to be near my ideal weight according to a text book, but if I don’t love myself until I reach that point I am going to struggle to get there. Instead I choose to love where I am at and in turn I love knowing that I can get where I want to go. It all comes down to perspective and how you want to see things, as a note smaller goals are often more attainable that larger ones so I don’t even think in terms of 60 I think more in terms of 5-10.
The whole point of this blog is to get through to you how important you are and how loving yourself will bring so much reward to your life. My door is always open here at charming confessions. I don’t care if I know you are not, I will always take the time to talk to you and make you realize just how amazing you really are. Every single person is special and amazing in their own way, you just have to find yours. Until next time….love yourself and Keep Ketoing On!